Indeed. There has to be 100% commitment from both sides.
BS!!! fb2!! What exactly do you mean? You may have forgotten that this "piecing" I am "in" started 8-9 months ago, and if you listen to Puppy (I know you do-maybe I hsould ask him for input) and others, H's behaviour is full of HUGE STOP signs... No boundaries I EVER set, no demands I EVER made, no desires I EVER expressed where respected.
I still dont know what happened (I dont ask anymore but you must remember that it one of my few reqs), he still has contact with her, we still havent spent anytime together (2nd LL), he hasnt flirted with me, said more than 3 nice words to me (compliments, my 1st LL), no hugs, no kisses,no dates, no fun, nothing... Sure, we spend time with the kids. But that is NOT what was missing from our M. He and I both agreed that our M was 1000% child centered and that was the main cause for our problems. Tha and his work. Guess what has change dnow? Nothing.
HE CAME BACK. I TOLD HIM where I stood back then, he said he KNEW where we had f@cked up. STILL he repeats the SAME!!
You know what? Committement and vows are great. If trying to stay married feels like a Chinese torture, then... I take my vow back. How can I possibly love a man that never showed any desire, any kind of will/passion/excitement to be married to me? How can I feel loved, secure and safe? Just because he is polite and nice? (not overly, dont get me wrong, just basically).
I give up explaning this. Thanks for all your help everyone. xxxxx K
