Renee, I suspect his comment was a projection as to what he's done. In the back of his mind that maybe you will find someone else and leave him alone and yes, appease the guilt he feels deep down for what he's done to you.
Ok Snodderly, I have a question about this. Everyone says to go on and to act "as if" we are happy and we are doing fine. If we do this, whether its true or not, doesnt that give the spouse a sense of relief? You say deep down they feel quilt, so if we have a life and dont rely on them anymore, and seem to be happy around them or when we speak to them, wouldnt that ease their quilt? Dont they NEED to FEEL QUILTY for what has happened?
Please explain, and thank you snodderly sooooo much.
