Ok guys let me see if I can explain. The main reason I want to KNOW if this is mlc or was is...IF this is mlc then MAYBE I will be able to understsand his actions a little bit better and I can go on with my life while standing for my family. If I knew it was WAS and he wasnt coming back for sure then I would pursue other realationships if they come along. Does this make sense. Most people here, especially Jack 3 Beans says to treat MLC like an illness. If my xh was sick, I wouldnt give up on him. BUT if he just honestly didnt want to be married then I would try to accept that better. He said that people were telling him he was in MLC but he says "why does it have to be MLC, why cant I just be unhappy?" well that is part of MLC unhappiness. Anyway I just wish I knew for sure. I only know what I see, his actions are so much like MLC. BUT as Braveheart has said, he left and divorced me very quickly. BUT wouldnt a normal person that was unhappy just want to go off get settled (which he has his own home)then date for awhile before moving someone in? And even at that, why would he want to marry her so soon??? I mean I am not in a MLC and I dont want to jump into a wedding dress. I will hopefully date but I dont think I will be getting married after only 3 or 4 months of dating? Is this the norm for people now days, to get engaged so soon? I do think my xh has anger because of quilt. I do think he feels some remorse for what he did, not only that but how he left me in the condition he did. Not a very good job and a house to try and pay for. I think part of him feels bad for doing this, but he is being pulled away by another very strong force. Therefore comes the anger and depression.
BH I do understand what you mean by him walking away and never looking back. BUT he has sooooo many traits of MLC. He is completely opposite of what he was like. He has went from being a 40 year old married man in a comfortable cozy 20 year marriage to a young man in a new relationship with lots of going out to eat, not buying new toys such as cars, but spending all his money on gf, working out, tanning, drinking some, (but not as much, I dont think), and taking off on a weekend trip here and there. NO FISHING, NO BUDDIES, NO FAMILY TIME, NO SON TIME, NO MONEY, NO TRUCK THAT HE LOVED.....NO Husband that I never knew!
