I agree with Forever. When I made the decision to end my affair and work on my marriage (which precipitated MY coming to these boards since my husband was also having an EA and isn't sure what he wants now), I did it knowing it's what I wanted and what was the right thing to do. It didn't stop me from missing the man I was having an affair with though. Anytime my husband has been distant or cold or I've had a bad day dealing with the whole situation, I want to run to this OM. In your situation, your wife can't run to him, he's cut her off and in addition, seems to be pretty angry and callous to her.
I'd just lay back and let her have some time. She's pregnant with you and seems to be committed to the marriage and to be honest, a statement like "the love will come back" is HUGE. Most of our spouses DON"T think they will ever feel that way about us again, and she's at least open to the concept that it can. Don't forget she's likely hormonal as well, so keep that in mind.
Try try try to be patient and loving with her. I think you're in a good place (in my very limited and inexperienced opinion).
