My friend sent me this email and it was just so uplifting:
You know, dude... it's okay to just feel it. You can try to be upbeat, but it's okay to take the time to grieve a little. Even cry, as "unmanly" as it sounds. So rent a movie (may I suggest "Band of Brothers"), get a bottle of wine and hang out by yourself and grieve a bit. Then keep workin' at it. She'll come around. Trust me... you're becoming an assertive, confident leader and that will look very attractive... it's natural.
Her being "analytical" is just a way of defending her decisions. Don't take in personal.
Just don't give up. There's a different between grieving a loss and giving up. Grief is how a healthy person deals with hurt, Giving Up is the excuse we give ourselves to get over the hurt. Don't give up. And make no mistake... the Creator is invested in your experience. He made you the way you are for a reason.
OD--
WOW!! This is powerful and something many newcomers need to see. Heck, I have been here over a year and I needed to see it!
Living God's blessings with grace and dignity~ SMW
M40/H36 T16/M14 4K B2/08 S4/08 current
Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7
My friend knows about my bad time with crown r. What the movie demand and my tum tolerates are dif.
W and I watched movie and had wine together (not band of brothers) last night. She said she wants to make event out of special bottle we have sometime. No footrubs but nice hugs before bedtime.
This morning mochas and small talk then she helped me with my things. Good together time.
W and bff helped me bring stuff over and unload. W thought house was already starting to look cute.
W is planning to come over tomorrow to help with things.
On way out I closed door behind bff and took w into my arms. I told her thanks for helping me. She thanked me for being kind. I told her whenever she wants to come over and hang out, just do friend things, she's welcome. The door is always open for you. She started to cry and said "everythings going to be alright" two or three times. I whispered "I love you" and she kissed me (first time in months). By now she was crying pretty hard. I gave her a little wave on the way out.
"My actions are my only true belongings. I cannot escape the consequences of my actions. My actions are the ground upon which I stand." Thich Nhat Hanh
Yeah it hurts but I'm staying positve. Going to a backyard grill tonight. W's friendly actions certainly better than telling me to get lost.
"My actions are my only true belongings. I cannot escape the consequences of my actions. My actions are the ground upon which I stand." Thich Nhat Hanh
w stopped by with new bedding for kids. made a little small talk but otherwise only 10 minutes or so.
new house is boring.
"My actions are my only true belongings. I cannot escape the consequences of my actions. My actions are the ground upon which I stand." Thich Nhat Hanh
Dawg! New house is boring. I'm hip. Thinker's got it -- get out and find something to do. Class at the community college. Toastmasters. Join the Masons. SOMETHING ANYTHING EVERYTHING. Push the envelope. Mojolation to the Max. As long as you have to walk this road, you might as well check out the scenery. As the immortal Ferris Bueller put it, "The question isn't 'what are we going to do?' it's 'what aren't we going to do?'"
My H would try to "warm things up" as you put it with similar things like back-rubs or foot rubs, or sometimes in bed he would lightly place his hand on my hip and just freeze there. He never just took me. When he did these little things to try and warm me up, I felt as if he was giving me some lame cue that he was about to get ready to make his big move. I also felt as if he was testing my mood and my receptiveness before actually initiating. It turned me off bigtime.
Sounds like me
Thanks for this Lucky.
Me 42, W 39, S8, S6, S2 M 11y, A & ILYBNILWY 11/08 Walking away from a bad situation.
It wasn't boredom so much as sadness. My house was mostly set up and looking good but things like grocery shopping for one, cooking for one, laundry for one, etc. were starting to hit me. The cure is the same. I'll get busy.
I told myself there would be fun things about living downtown like parks, restaurants, and events. Now I just need to quit thinking about her and get on with it.
"My actions are my only true belongings. I cannot escape the consequences of my actions. My actions are the ground upon which I stand." Thich Nhat Hanh
"Band of Brothers" clearly demands whisky.
