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Cinders, I met OW and here is my take. The more "normal" they can make it--if they can pretend that nobody was hurt and that it is all one big happy family, then maybe they will get everything they want and he will marry her and they will be happy happy happy and she will get the place of the queen instead of the mistress.

Your OW is in an interesting situation, because you are moving on, your H is wondering about your dating, and he's not even divorced from you yet. Oo, if she can ONLY get him to divorce the wife....but gosh, wife isn't too interested now and triangles make the whole situation soooo much more intriguing. Your H is also disrespectful to OW by leaving her out of situations. She realizes she is second class and she wants to be "legit."

I was reading idea of "triangles." If two people have a lot of tension, a third person can take that tension out. Two will ally against one. And at first, it is H/OW for many of us. This is an element of drama: two allied against one. As the tension drops between H/W, OW is less necessary and tension between H/OW increases....

When W stops resisting, there is nothing for them to fight and now they have problems w/OW. Hmm.....