OK for men with wives having an affair, has OM...

[pauld2100]

I know my sitch is as bad as they come, I have read about allot of them that were in exactly the same thing. Even some that there WAS had fallin for OM/OW and managed to save it also. My W hasnt found anyone she is dating and looking for something else.
I have never seen her so upset.
In the first days crying about us spliting up and wishing we could stay together but at not long after started acting like this. The excuses were there also. Not doing the dishes and really petty things that were not justification for this.
I think she was worried I was not attracted yet we had a SL right up to the end, also complimented her offten. So emotional or physical or fiancial? A combination of things I think.
She asked me to prove things to her in the beginning and I was all about keeping us together and she simply got more upset, I was only tring to keep our family together but she see's my intention as "me getting my way" I did fear loosing her also and that showed through. I simply didn't want this to happen. So this was not like she just started having an A just went nuts and started dating, with the other divorcee girl after we seperated. She even gave me warning, so I went into panic mode myself. Every kind thing I did or attemt to rekindle was noticed a little at first but after she got on a dating sight it was like she was gone in mind. Not worried about me to much at all, and what I was doing.