Over the Shock and GALing 4

[Thinker]

Thinker, don't know what Da Law is in your part of these United States of Hamericky, but in MY part the SAHM can be "compelled" by the court (i.e., at the request of the earning spouse) to be evaluated by a vocational counselor. The final determination will balance needs of children, availability of alternatives, and earning potential of W. Assuming there will be some percentage of joint custody -- tell me if that's wrong -- even though youngest is 1 there will be opportunities for W to get work. Which means.... So check that out.

Thanks for the feedback.

I think in my case this concern is getting a bit overblown. My W is educated, very intelligent, and her earning power is obvious. Although she is now working a few hours a week to stay in contact with her field, she has not worked full time in quite a few years. I think it is more of a case of her not thinking the D all the way through before proposing it, and then proposing a fantasy based on her discussions with several D'd friends who are either independently wealthy or had very wealthy XH's, and both of whom are now (post D) still full time SAHM's. (Interesting to note that they both also have their kids in full time day-care so they have more time for themselves...)

I am going to go talk to a L so that I can fully understand this worst case scenario (while still hoping that my W will work her way back toward reconciliation from her current "on the fence" position - not leaving, but also not committed to staying working on improving things.)