Hi JR09, Sorry you're going through something so tough - I know the frustration can be exhausting.
From my quick read of your sitch, I would suggest turning your scope a bit more on yourself...in particular about the divorce - while it's important to do what you have to do in terms of preparing yourself for the real possibility of it going through - you can also continue to do what you have to do to concentrate on improving yourself - and not getting distracted either by your W's anger - or her methods of manipulating you. Yes...that's how I see the D game as it's played a lot of the time here - the spouse that leaves uses talk of D as a form of manipulation - and it works so well there's really no reason not to...especially if the WAS can keep bringing it up as a way to control the LBS...
What's the story on your anger now? Managing it more? Understanding it more? Learning about yourself?
