Yes, I think last night she finally used the term "boyfriend" w/me, so I think we can slip into that category now.
This is a new sort of relationship for me as I'm pretty sure they are at times after we've been married and disappointed. I'm treading slowly, but I'm more open than she is. She's been burned in the past, so she's a bit more guarded.
I'm getting better at just relaxing and not worrying about things until they come up. This has helped me as I work through my deep-ingrained fears of abandonment and rejection (got to love how those parents can mold us for life, eh?).
It is more and more confortable these days living inside my own skin, which I think is totally cool!
She on the other hand is afraid she'll get burned again or that I'm one of those "too good to be true" type of guys. Well, I'm not "too good to be true," but I am close, if you ask for my non-biased and humble opinion.
So, I understand her heistation to not let her guard down completely and it honestly doesn't bug me too much. I've got the attitude - which I tell her about - which is, I'm fine w/things right now and I like her a lot. When she's ready to let her defenses down, she'll do it and if I get tired of waiting, I'll let her know.
Other than that, Im' pretty laid back and excited to see this thing go where it can go.
As for her athletic ability, she's a good athlete, but never has golfed. However, she has said she'd be open to trying it, so I'm pretty stoked about that. As for ice skating, she's a skater, so I'm ina bit of a situation tere as I do well to just stay upright on skates.
She's a former basketball player - a little point guard - so she's liking the fact I've coached and played before. Who knows? If it goes further, mayb I'll get back into coaching and have someone who suppports my coaching instead of resents it.
