I have been really sick with the flu for over a week and I am sure ready to start feeling better! Song, I will keep you and your family in my prayers.
Stuck,
First let me say that I don't want you to feel like you are d*mned if you do--and d*mned if you don't, when I comment on your post. I don't want it to appear that I am always telling you that you did things incorrectly, okay? But, that is how we learn here on the board--by telling each other what we did or didn't do right.
I was concerned that you would feel disappointed after the dinner and show with your W. Even though you said you were not "expecting" anything.....I think you were. I know you did not expect sex, but you DID expect her to at least act nice and treat you better than what she did. The point is.....SHE knew you were expecting "something". I did not feel that she was ready for anything (even just a dinner and show) that even hinted at intimacy. Dinner for two and a show can put pressure on a MLC/WAW.
I think she was rude b/c she sensed you trying so very hard (even though you kept it light) and she knew in her heart that you were "hoping" that this would help the R. Remember, my H and I have been in the same spot as you are in now, and I could always tell when he was "over-killing" by trying too hard. I wanted him to just relax and be natural. I am not saying you were wrong in what you did......I'm just saying that I don't think she was quite ready and was on her guard b/c she knew you. Her rudness was to wart off any advances that you might even "think" about. All WAW's who are in this MLC that your wife is in--thinks and feels that way (IMHO).
Sure enough, you were disappointed......then you allowed that disappointment to build until you got angry. You were to the point of exploding and then you left a message on her answering machine at work. I am sure that every word you said was true! I only hate the fact that you left it on her phone at the work place. To leave such a message as that--at her job, is not the right way to do it. You may not have cared if it upset her at her job, but it just was not the right thing. You probably realized that....after the fact. (Don't we all?)
Anyway, it is done and I am anxious to hear what has transpired since then. So, please respond soon and catch me up on the details.
Take care, Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
