WOW T! All I can really say is that both of you have enormously complicated lives! I'm exhausted just reading about it.
Obviously, the two of you connect on a level that a lot of people couldn't understand. You speak a common language that brings you together. You seem to have a soul connection, but your logistics really do make it nearly impossible to have an intimate R. Have you though anymore about just making a leap of faith and finding a way to move permanently to NY? Would that hurt you in the long run? It would at least solve a lot of the logistical issues.
Just spitballing......
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!