WAW - Very confused and devastated - pt 9

[confusedinpa]

I did try to follow Sandi's advice of just saying things once and don't let her ping pong the conversation. I tried to listen as much as possible

I think you did well in the phone conversation. She was missing you, which is a good sigh. She is having problems being a "single" parent at her house, which is good. She is not as happy as she thought she would be, which is good.

Frankly, I believe she moved out to get your attention! She is not GAL. She is not acting like a WAW how has OM ususally acts. So, I think it was to make a loud statement to you about her unhappiness. However, if she gets your attention by behaving like this, it would be the same principle of children getting what they want from bad behavior. She may think she wants you to go "crawling & begging" her to come home, but she would not respect you if you did.

Sandi,

Hope you are feeling better - summer flu's are really bad, particularly if you have allergies too.

I guess the real confusing part of it is from this morning's call she expects we can work on our communication issues without really commiting to working on it. She said that I should call her if I have something on my mind, like she does.

I guess where I'm most confused is what do I do. I've been working on me, getting a life, going to the gym, going to church, understanding my part of how we got to this point. I seem to get the impression she thinks that we should be working on the relationship, whatever that means. I'm tempted to ask her point blank what she expects me to do. I'm really stuck right now.

Thanks