First of all Thank You BH and BND for your thoughts. BH, It has taken me a long time, several months, to realize I am living my life on my own now. I did not adjust well at first. It's true every day it gets a little easier, but I still have a bad day every now and then where it hits me in the face that my h walked off and left me and our son. I use to say to him, for unknown reasons, "dont ever leave me", and he would say "you dont have to worry about that EVER, I couldnt imagine how I could live without you and our son"...well what do ya know! Anyway, is the time frame the only thing you are considering? Isn't there more to consider? Maybe he is a was with a mlc mind??? BH, I know some do not come back and some do. I dont think there can be any statistics that are correct. I have met several people through work that have experienced this and most h/w wanted to come home and try again. Some got remarried and some wouldnt take them back. I dont know what GOD has planned for me. I dont know if my xh will wake up...I can only pray that our family isnt done with forever! I WILL NOT stop praying for my family to be reunited. (I wasnt screaming at you either.lol)
Renee, you are right in the sense that one size doesn't fit all. I made the comment about your XH not being an MLCer based on what I have seen here. Is that 100% correct? Of course not, but the fact remains that he is gone and you two are Divorced. As for some comming back and some not, well, its been my experience that most do not. Again, your experiences are different than mine, perhaps its in the water of there in London, I don't know! LOL Seriously, based upon what I have seen on the board and what I have seen in life, I would say its a 5-10% chance they do come back, or try to. Is that scientific? Of course not, but when you watch and learn you get a feel for things and most people on here would probably agree with what I am saying, although they probably won't publically. Hope is a great thing, but you also have to look for yourself. Don't waste you life waiting on someone else, live it as best you can. As for GOD showing you the way, I have no doubt he will help you, but the bible is very specific about opening your heart to GOD. I don't think your XH has done that, not sure he ever will.
