he was back, i think

[PositivelyMommy]

Mdoodles, I know what you are trying to say. I understand Puppy as well.

Mdoodles, you think that by holding onto his things, you still have a piece of him with you, that you are holding onto a little bit of hope. I totally understand that state of mind. And by 'releasing' his things, you are then acknowledging to yourself that you are giving up the last shred of hope. To you, this is immensely symbolic.

All I can say is, don't be afraid to let go. It really is OK for you to let go.

What Puppy is saying is that holding onto his things doesn't mean you have ANY control over his decisions. I know you understand that intellectually but is having a hard time emotionally.

But believe me, if you give yourself permission to let go of him, immense peace will come over you. Because let's face it, the harder you hold on, the more he wants to get away. The harder you hold on, the more difficult for you to move on with the next chapter of your life. Either way, holding on is not healthy for you regardless of his final decision.

So that is why we are advising to let go. Let nature takes its course, there is no need to be afraid anymore.