PM Thread #6 - New Life for Number1 - Me

[PositivelyMommy]

Thanks so much Hope, Lola, Karen, Kevin, 25yrs, mdoodles. I am experiencing a very strange sensation.

I told you about my MIL. Well, she just called again. I know she wanted to convince me to go and bring the kids to visit her again. You know what, she is pursuing and I feel like the WAS and her the LBS. Boy, does the pursuing turn me off! Now I know how WAS' feel. It's really strange to be at the other end of the rope. She is pursuing, begging and I see it as pathetic and not very persuasive. The more she begs and complains, the more I want to run away from it.

We didn't get to talk exactly as she called at a bad time, I did put the kids on so that they can talk.

I know she is in a tough spot. I do have compassion for her feelings. But, as I told my brother today, I don't feel obligated to go out of my way anymore. When she met the OW, while staying with me, I felt that she has betrayed me. So now I don't need to go out of my way and take the kids to see her. H can do it, he is her son. He should be the one responsible for the kids' relationship with his mother, not me. I have my own hands full and my own relatives to care for and be responsible for.

It sounds heartless, I am not usually this way.

I used to be 'treat everyone the way that I want to be treated'. Now I am more cynical. Now I feel that 'I treat people the way they treat me. If they care for me and is respectful, then I will be respectful back. If they hurt me and don't care for me or my feelings, then I won't go out of my way to take care of them'. I gave her a chance, she blew it.