Doodles, I know this isn't easy (in fact, it's the hardest thing you've ever had to do, I'm sure), but the fact is that your husband's behavior is utterly predictable, and you have a role in enabling it. Go back and re-read what WhatdidIdo and I posted to you back when you first came on the board, in January, and then again when you re-posted a few months later.
If you will be honest with yourself, you will see where you failed to fully confront your husband.
Please understand: his wayward behavior is NOT your fault. His affair(s) are on his soul alone. But how you REACT to his poor behavior IS under your control, and you've never really been willing to insist upon the things that a healthy Doodles should need in order for a wayward spouse to GET to come back home to her.
Again, go back and read specifically WDID's posts, and look at your responses to them. I see a bunch of "Oh, that will never work," and "he'll never do that," and "that will only make him angry," etc.
We told you that stuff back then because we cared, and we didn't want to see you hurt again.
