Hi nicoles, I guess I can't tell you what the right thing to do was as I am still trying to figure it out for myself! but I think I would have responded too, to acknowledge the effort to reach out and keeping it neutral I think was good. after all (I tell myself) it is his choice to leave that led him to this path and the consequences.
I bet that really did take you by surprise too!
Me-27 H-28 M-2.5 yrs T-8.5 yrs No kids B 1/09 S 2/09