hey there. you are so sweet. thanks for asking. so....update...I did what I said I might. The other night when I posted that I was going to say we shouldn't bring anyone around the kids...I wasn't sure if it was a good idea. But I went ahead and said (as he was picking up the kids) "hey...I just want you to know, as a mother I want to make sure we are clear that we should not bring anyone else around the kids yet...since you are having them for the weekend, I felt like mentioning that". (anyone else meaning another woman of course...) He responded by saying "who do you think I would bring???" and that he would never do that and that it would be a LONG time before he would even think about it...and that I should know he would never do that. I said that I didn't know what he would/would not do these days. It was weird because at that point we were standing really close together and he was looking right into my eyes. I said "ok then...BYE!" and I walked away. He took the kids and I didn't talk to him again till the next night (friday) when I called the girls to see how they were. He answered the phone saying "Hey Mama!" (something he always used to say to me)...and I just said hi and asked to talk to the girls. I talked to them each for a second and they said they were playing with our friends (another family we always hang out with) and they got off the phone pretty quick. This made me sad of course and I started to cry. H called back and said sorry, they were totally preoccupied. I said "no worries...talk to you later, bye." So, then I went home and balled my eyes out. I fell asleep early, feeling pretty crappy. So today I went to work and had a good day. I went out with my boss for drinks and called the girls just before I left. They were having fun and said that Daddy bought them each a fish. D8 named hers Swimmy and D6 named hers Flippy but Flippy died already. It was funny, sad but funny! I felt happy they were having fun...but it was hard of course. Then D6 said "here's Daddy" and I said "no...I gotta go, i love you" and I hung up...not speaking to H at all. Then I went out and had some drinks and fun with my boss and some friends. At about 11:30 tonight when i was out..I get a text from H. Random...he says he was "never more proud of us than when we moved into our first house together and felt like a family and that he was able to provide for us. and that he was looking at old pics and was sad." I was taken aback abd didn't know what to think or say or how or IF to respond. So...I waited almost an hour and finally responded with "I have always thought of you as a good provider...goodnight". Holy crap...I am floored. I am happy he finally reached out and showed me emotion (one of my DB goals)...but am not sure that I should have responded at all. I just felt like if I didn't respond at all...that I would be rejecting his effort to reach out. So, I responded neutrally, I think. Any thoughts?
