he was back, i think

[FightingFit]

I dont think any of us like the idea of our H or W staying with the homewrecker; its a horror, that thought. It does happen though - but you can rest assured it would not be a very 'peaceful' relationship, not with the kind of history. And I imagine they dont tell fond stories of how they met either HAHAHA. Or if they did they'd have to heavily omit the truth! Come to think if it, I have never ONCE met anyone who has admitted they met their H or W when they were still married and cheated with them!!!! I guess it doesnt SOUND too good !

Kind of makes me feel sorry as well for the family in general - certainly they'd know it was pretty sordid and frankly it would be really hard to accept I think. I imagine the parents for example, and think it must be fairly terrible to have to accept a new DIL who wrecked your sons marriage - even if you didnt think highly of the former DIL, you'd still feel really uncomfortable about her, and wonder about her morals overall, and she ISNT the mother of your grandchildren...

Sometimes I think OP's like the idea of acting like a sitcom and settling down with a nice cup of tea with the cheated on wife or husband and saying "no hard feelings, lets be friends". IN THEIR DREAMS. there are hard feelings alright. They wont go away - ever! they might for the OP, but not for US! they probably like the idea for salving their own conscience and to be able to spout on to others that they have 'nothing against' the former w or h and 'get on with them quite well' - after all beign able to say that would make them look better. Why should we do a thing that would make THEIR life easier??? no way!

it DOES take a long time - a really long time but in the end when the sting has gone (the pain never does, but you stop stinging over it so much) you kind of snicker a bit thinking of them still together; after all they very much deserve one another dont they???

let us hope that once our own sitches are over and we heal we find someone very special... happiness is the salve to this kind of hurt... xoxoxo