A glorious sunny weekend over here in the UK, temperatures set to hit 27C (80F) hot by anyone’s standards. Anyway I’m just going to journal for a bit, I’m not really looking for feedback.
So, I think I’ve hit a similar impass to K Sunshine whereby our spouce is happy with the status quo, happy to be seen as married in the eyes of the masses, but when we push for something closer, more of what we want then they withdraw, back away or revert to type.
Certainly in my case W wants to be married, may even love me in her own way but she backs off and has ready made excuses when my needs are brought to the fore. In fact she is using a kind of “Jedi mind trick” to convince me all of this is my fault. I mean in her eyes she has secret friends because I am a very jealous H and if she as much as looks at another man then I give off a bad reaction. (WTF) yep she keeps pushing the jealous husband bit as her reason for secret friends. And now she is disgusted cos I keep spying on her. Well I told her I’m more disgusted by the fact that she talks to OP in secret (Touché)
On the no sex, the latest is I put her it off it by accusing her of having an A, after the accusation she thought to herself what’s the point. (what’s the poing indeed, last week it was womans problems). I said that was only a couple of weeks ago and we’ve barely had any since the start of the year, defiantly once, maybe twice. W is convinced its more. She's also trying to convince me she’s been making more of an effort in that department. Well maybe she did April til June last year but since then not much. I remeinded her of some of her other excuses like she she wants to be woo'ed, but that just goes over her head.
Well we had more circular discussions bit it’s a bit pointless indeed, if a take a quote room a movie (I wish I could remember which one) she’s pi**ing on my head and telling me its raining. well that’s how it feels anyway.
So as I said it’s a glorious weekend, D7 and I are going to the local water park to feed the ducks and the swans, then we will practice more on her bike, she can ride it without stabilisers, but it just the starting and the stopping she has trouble with.
So if focusing on D7 counts as withdrawing, then I think I'll be withdrawing for a while.
Lanzo
PS K sunshine, our spouces know us too well and know the point to which they can keep us at bay and when to give us a little positive to stop us from walking.
PPS I've been on FB for a good while now and not had one offer, may be time to change my picture .
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