I too am in the same boat, my wife wants out and again I have been given the classic WAW lines.
I wish I could give you some great advice on the pursuing but I don't even know myself. It seems like the advice you have been getting and the things you've been doing have been working pretty good.
My emotions are all over the place, one minute I'm fine feeling balanced the next I'm a wreck. Hang in there.
I too have reconnected with God it's the only thing carrying me through this crisis.
Me 42 W 34 D 5 S 3 S 2 M 3 yrs T 8 yrs Bomb 2/22/09 Still in same house same bed... For now.
