Hey, I'm new here and relatively new to DB. Some stats on my sitch, Me 42 her 34 married 3 years, together 8, three great kids, girl 5, boy 3, boy 2. Three months ago my wife told me that she had fallen out of love with me and that she would give it a year or two before leaving. I have had four DB sessions with Jody, all of which have been very helpful. My wife has had one session, she too told me it was helpful. Our problem has been that for the majority of our R I have been a chronic complainer, always bitching about the things around the house. My belittling demoralizing demeaning and disrespectful ways have finally taken their toll. I worked hard on my 180 with Jody and my wife noticed immediate results. I had setbacks that I'm not proud of all of which made it feel like Groundhog day over and over. I did however feel as if I was making some good headway. Guess I was wrong, she told me last night that she is done, nothing left to give and just cannot try anymore. I even suggested flying to see Michelle for a one day intensive. DENIED. There just seems to be no convincing her. So I guess at the end of the summer she will be moving out. She has been a stay at home mom for five years and now she'll be going back to work to try and start a new life. This hurts like hell, I know I'm not saying anything new here but man the pain! I love this woman so much and have never let a day go by that I didn't tell her so, but apparently that was just all the more confusing for her. The thought of having to try and tell the kids is more than I can bear right now. Sorry for all the jumbled thoughts, the smoke is still settling from the bomb. Any thoughts, suggestions or words of encouragement would be greatly appreciated
