How do I not let this control my every thought?

[kat727]

I am glad that you realize that you need to get out. I think you could let your friends know before you get together that you don't want to discuss W. Then go out. I don't want to see this take you a few years like it did for me.

I too am busy with my kids. They live here the majority of the time. I have to work on creating my own life and not just keep living through theirs.

You may also need to change the way the house is, at least for now. Take some of her stuff down, make it more of your own. I know you miss her but for now you need to work on you. It will get easier. And just a quick thought, she will be more intrigued with you if you are able to get your life jumpstarted.

kat