I'm almost 4 years into this situation and she only started warming up to me for the last 11 months. It's to late for me because I no longer desire her, we are divorced, but at least I'm getting the respect from her I think I deserve. If not as a husband, friend, and lover, at least as a human being and the Father of her only child. That's a boatload more of what I was getting from her in the past. I'm not one to say.. 'told you so', but it's sure sweet vindication.
It will come in time. It always seems to in one form or another (divorced or not). To much history together. They do eventually pull their heads out just like we pulled ours out. It's just to late for some of us by the time that happens.
Hi Astimegoeson.
Yeah, sometimes I still do. I have a conscience though, and I truly regret my past behavior.
Been thinking about a vacation I'm going to put together for the kids and I, and it's another big step for me. We always took good vacations. Always. As far as respect goes, I've got to learn to respect and love myself more than I ever have. 'The Golden Rule' is actually based on the premise that you first 'love' yourself!
I hope I can get stronger while the time that you mention passes. We do have a lot of history together. I do hope she will heal and 'pull her head out' just as I have pulled my head out. Some days, as you know, are harder than others. I still struggle, it still hurts, but I'm committed to coming through this crisis a better man and a better father. I still find it hard for me to deal with how badly I hurt those who were most important to me.
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.
