Hey girls.. Kat, thats good advice and ironically, exactly how I felt when I first dated him.. because he broke up with his then gf the week before...(he was in love with me secretly, hmm, second time that has happened !!). It never bothered me that he had been sleeping with someone else right up until we got together. So I feel the same way now.. yes, we were apart and it wasnt an A.. but, as Addie says, its human nature to compare and worry a little, but I also lose the thought again a second later, or let it go should I say. I actually feel completely calm and relaxed and happy around him and have no anger or bitterness or need to forgive.. only bits and bobs. Dont know how I managed that!
Addie... Hello!! I read your post and saw H came back and I was SO happy for you too! We have been back together 2 weeks now. Its wierd isnt it, to be in this position, dont you think? I missed him like mad, it was agony..now, I shower him with kisses when he wakes up and he smiles and does it back and its all so lovely and natural, its like the last hideous 2 years went up in a puff of smoke, like a bad dream.
Although having said that, I have learnt so much, I wouldnt change it. I just wish he came back a bit sooner.. May was stretching it! He was on his last threads with me. But, the R we have now is so much healthier already I think, we both seem to have learnt a lot and appreciate each other more for it. I said to him at the bomb... you dont value me and you dont value what we've got. Hopefully, he does now. What I mainly sense from him, is relief. Relief that he got back on track after his detour, that he got me back and came back to love, he just oozes relief and seems much happier and calmer in himself than the past 2 years.
