Last february my H started having an A, with a shiny new 22 y/o. It ended in july, and I have been dbing my butt of since. He lives in VA on a temporary duty assignment with the military, and I live in Alaska.

We have started to communicate again, via text messaging. Had some good conversations. And almost 1 year to the day since he moved out, I got this message:
I just want you to know that I'm incapable of finding a relationship now because of the emotional connection I've re-established with you. I dont know what that means exactly, but either I need to sever this so I can move on, or we need to see where we stand. Before I hit send, I just want you to know that I realize how importatn this is and if you never want to hear from me again, I'd understand. I'm sorry if this disrupts your life. I really dont know what this means for either of us. Dont respond now, Ill maybe talk to you tomorrow.

I havent responded yet... I dont know how to. I want us to work out more than anything, but I dont want to respond emotionally and screw everything up. Advice???

I guess I gave the wrong finger to the wrong man...