I, Enjoy your time away w/your little one. You need a change in scenery for a bit.
As for the other woman, please do not compare yourself to her....she's nothing as far as I am concerned. Any person that will take up w/a married person is at the bottom of the barrel in my opinion. Now, it does take two to dance this tango, so we do not know what your h has told her. They do tend to paint a different picture of their lives once they get motivated to leave the marriage. It's called rewriting history. She may very well not know just who this man really is, unlike you...who do.
When they are in crisis, their egos are every fragile, so they go looking for someone to talk to about how they are feeling. They feel like they've missed out on the best years of their lives, they are aging, health issues, maybe some sexual problems, can't communicate w/us like they use to, oh, yeah, we've grown apart, etc. So, there a peoole out there looking for these fragile people to snap them up for a good time and yes, to spend their money and have them taken care of for a while. No, you are not like her at all. You are far, far better than she is.
I know that this isn't what you wanted, but unfortunately, he's driving his crisis bus and will not even think of looking back and reconsidering at this time you, the marriage or a relationship. You will need to find a way to take care of yourself and live your life as if he's not returning. As for your friends, they mean well...but they aen't walking in your shoes. Ignore their comemnts and continue looking ahead.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
