Mark,

Here is a thread by Kevin4Dallas. 25yrsMLC wrote him some really good stuff. I think the advice is key because you and Kevin are in the same timeframe.

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1775387#Post1775387

Me:39
H:40
S:9
D:7
First Bomb ONS:June 07
Second Bomb OW: March 08
Separated: March 08
M:15 yrs
T:18 yrs
H deep into A with OW
Achieved ACCEPTANCE May 30, 09

'Yes, I can.'