H and I had agreed that he will not come straight home and frankly I don't want him to come straight home because OW's nutty behavior the other night is what I would have to deal with. And what crap would it be if he leaves me goes to her comes back to me straight. In the same manner he could leave again. No, I don't want him straight back home. And we have a lot we need to put in order. But he said that he is moving to his parents, infact he said that he's going to do it soon, that "something's gotta give." And he even said that he thinks 2 months of looking for a place for ow is enough time adn that was early this month. I want to hold him to his word. H usually accuses me of trying to control everything in our R so my approach was to have a soft but serious talk and remind him of all that he has said, reminding him of keeping his word - something that I'm always pushing, and letting him know that based on his word, the end of June of him moving back to his parents sound right. He says he really wants me to trust him this time that he is trying to take care of things, so I need a timeframe as solid proof. I've even been insisting enough to H that his words mean nothing so I'm asking him for proof. And he said he doesn't want me to wait too long. So it seems to me that a deadline/a timeframe is putting all his words to fruition.
I hate giving a deadline as well. I really wanted H to just do this on his own. I really do. But based on our history, he rarely just doesn't do things on his own until I have made it a requirement, eg. us getting married, buying the house, him moving out from OW the first time he left, his job, etc. Believe me, H takes a long time to do things and make decisions, even without me. But I wonder if I don't make him moving a strong requirement with a timeframe if he won't. He will feel like he has all the time in the world.
Also I was thinking to frame it in the sense of since H and I are landlords and we have recently given a tenant 30 day notice and H think it is enough time for him to find a place. I think by the end of this coming month should be enough. He said since the beginning of May that he was looking for a place for OW since he doesn't want to leave his son staying where they are. So tick tock....
