What beautiful poignant words to describe where you are.. and the start of the journey. The facts are startling.. your husband walks away from the marriage, family to another woman with children. His sole focus is to divorce and start a life again with her.
Sucks the supreme bean-a-roni.
The facts are your friends, as painful as they are. Another fact: The only one responsible for personal happiness is the face one sees in the mirror. It's true for him, me, you, everyone on the planet. The beautiful thing is being self aware. You can use the emotions you feel to grow, to process what is going on.
You may never know why this all happened. He will probably never explain it, validate your feelings. Your realities are no longer meshed. However, you can stop giving him prime real estate in your mind. You can choose what you put there. Mourning is a process, but so is choosing to live a vibrant life. It's not "getting over him", it's moving forward knowing the facts. And it hurts. And hurts and hurts... especially if you keep picking at the wound. Oddly enough, by focusing on what you cannot control (his actions, choices) you can hurt yourself far worse than he ever did.
Try and look at your whole life, the love you have for your daughter, the connections you have with your mum, your friends. Take joy in your accomplishments, learn from the stumbles. Grief, pain, hurt does not stop the beauty of life.
Read the posts of others on this board. Share what is beautiful within you. Find the nuggets of wisdom, the ways they cope and apply what works to your life. Give out what you want to receive.
