Need to really make changes for me (thread #3)

[mdoodles]

oh vicky, we have been in such similar positions and similar locations!

i basically had the same thing with him bouncing back and forth and her calling....dont u love the private calls? lol

deadline. i just dont know. i thought about it too.

the truth is, until they are absolutely forced to make a decision, they dont. they will go back and forth.

and me? i know me. i know i would give the deadline and it would come and go. and i would get angry, say im done.

and then a few days later, i soften. and would still want him back.

is that you too? because if it is, u cant do it.

if he didnt come home on the 30th day, are u ready to proceed and not look back?

or maybe when u proceed, he would u are serious and would come back.

we dont know.

but are u really really really ready to make it officially over, because u gave the deadline?

i know i wasnt, so i couldnt it.

i kept trying to, and he would suck me back in to avoid those deadlines.

something is up with the mistress, she is feeling threatened, he is lying to her. and you.

but u know that. we both know that.

so addressing your question - is deadline good or bad? it depends on if u are truly finished.

and i dont think u are.


they say deadlines dont usually work. at this point in your story, it is absolutely fair of you to say it to him, but since i dont think u are done and i dont think he will take it seriously, maybe there is something else you can do?

i have to think about it.