yea thats bc shes the one doing wrong and wants to put the focus on you and make out like YOU are the horrible one not her. they all do this; my own was the very same - made out like I was the devil incarnate. It was so hurtful and so damaging, but looking back I see very clearly he was playing a game called "let me not look like such a bad guy cuz I know I have really done wrong here". so therefore, trying to attempt to make out I was literally a HORROR to live with and be with took the FOCUS off his actions. nice! convenient!
it cant last an eventually they have to live with it anyway, as WELL as their absolutely crap BLAME of you in THEIR wrongdoing but how else are they gonna live with it, they have to have SOME excuse and it becomes very real to them too, while they're still in denial over their actions. who knows when regret begins an they really look at what they did? I have read it takes about 5 years and I think thats about right...
and you will have moved on leaving her stuck with her guilt and remorse. such is life. your pain is terrible but remember this, hers hasnt even BEGUN yet. makes you feel kinda sorry for them they have no idea whats ahead. then its TABLES TURNED. this is life this is karma this is how things work.
little saying: GOD SAYS: take what you want. THEN PAY FOR IT.
When you're down to nothing, God is up to something.
