This past couple of days has been interesting. She has been really nice all of a sudden. She made conversation with me last night again. I told her I was going to bed. She said ok, good night and put a smily face on it. She hasn't done that in almost a year.
Then today I picked up the kids and took them to dinner since she was getting home a little late. D7 said she wanted mommy to pick them up since they will be back with me next week. I said I'm sorry, but mommy was working a little late. D11 was quiet. She said she was tired from swimming all day.
We got back to the house and W arrived. She was real nice. She asked me if she needed to get her tires changed. I looked them over and told her the front ones will need to be changed pretty soon but it doesn't have to be this weekend. She thanked me for looking at them. Then we went into the house. She went through all the mail with me and thanked me for chipping into the kids summer program. I agreed to pay more than I was going to for the kids sake. She was grateful.
Then she just started talking and talking to me. She asked what I had been up to and asked what groups I was part of so she made sure not to join them. I was like ok. So I told her I joined a DFW singles group. She said thats great and how am I liking things. I said how am I liking things? She said as far as doing new things and meeting people. I said I am enjoying trying some things I haven't tried before. She said thats great. Then she proceeded to tell me about this 55 year old guy that she has been hanging out with that she is going to take the kids out on a boat with him and take them bike riding with him. He hooked her up with a bike and is hooking D11 up with one also. Apparently he is married with grown kids and he works one tower over from her. They go to starbucks alot and have great theological discussions she says. She said its just her and the girls and his W is busy alot so they hang out.
Anyways, she kept on talking and was as friendly as could be. I wasn't sure why. I finally told her I needed to leave. I also got the discount card from her to the doctor. I looked her bike over and told her she needed to replace the chain because it was rusted and one of the brakes on it. She thanked me and said she hadn't realized that. I said I just wanted to make sure she is taken care of. She thanked me again and told me to have a good time tonite. I said thanks and left.
I'm not sure what is going on and why she is so nice now and talking to me. She still doesn't want to do anything with me and I haven't asked her to. We also talked about the kids and D11 has an awards show Tuesday night that we both just found out about. She said she wants me to finish moving my money out of her bank account this weekend so she knows how much she has. I said I will.
What is going on here? Why is she so chatty these past few days and so interested in how things are going for me yet wanting to make sure we don't end up in the same groups?
Its really confusing to have her be this way but yet still not want me around.
Anyways, I went to a friends place after and then we went to a meetup group and a place I haven't been to before. It was loud there and hard to hear much. I met a couple of people and then left and came home. I guess the nightlife just isn't really my scene. Its hard for me to hear there with partial hearing loss. I just didn't have that great of a time.
Tomorrow I am meeting a friend for lunch, then I have my kids for the afternoon and then I guess I will go to another meetup group. Sunday morning I am going to go to church and go to a singles class for ages 30 to 35. I think I will go to the doctor Sunday afternoon after getting my oil changed.
I have to admit it is getting a bit lonely for me. I'm trying to get out and meet people, but I guess I just haven't found my niche yet.
Yes, I guess if I changed years back, why wouldn't she. And if I can make real changes back to a great guy, maybe years down the road I can attract her again and we can have a new beginning again.
D11 is texting me some tonite. She is a pretty cool kid.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
