I know that I need meds. I have to get out of this depressed state of mind and feeling like I need her to be happy. CLEARLY....in fact she is the least likely person now, to help YOU be happy.
Why do I want someone like her yall keep asking? Because she wasn't ever like this until the last year. So I feel like this is not who she really is. Thia has to be a phase. No I don't like how she is currently acting. But how long can she keep this up for? Plus, I do believe that M is for life.
Kevin
She is what she says and does. We are all what we say and do. Regardless of intent or sense of humor, or ambitions, if I kill someone on purpose I am a killer. If your wife yells and demeans you and disrespects you EVEN if she has "good reason" in her mind, she's a yelling demeaning disrespectful wife to you. Pretty clear...Will she change? Who knows? She sees no reason to change, least of all for you. I don't think she'll change in the next 2 or 3 years. If ever. Her family is strange and enabling and you two have had an odd history so....well, I'm not God...but moving on... Sure kev, Marriage may be for life in your religion but now the state's say it does not have to be. Marriage is now a legal matter, not just a religious one (and for some, it's ONLY a legal matter....). While it certainly takes two to make a M work, SOMETIMES it only takes one to end it. And she has taken action to end it AND spoken words indicating certainty on her part that she wants it to end and has for some time and is sending NO signals to the contrary, IMO. Not enough time has passed for her to believe in your changes anyhow and besides, have you really changed? You said she isn't really "this way" and that is not the real her...as if she could NOT have changed so.
Well YOU have changed from the man you were when she married you, correct? I mean, isn't that the truth, about how you became complacent, drank too much, let her take on too much etc etc...... You changed and then her feelings and behavior changed....[b]SO if you changed into that "not so great" guy...why is it impossible to believe SHE HAS CHANGED TOO? B/C she obviously absolutely HAS.[/b] The issue now is whether YOU'LL CHANGE INTO THE MAN YOU WERE MEANT TO BECOME, whom you admit never quite being in the past....and THEN we'll see what God has in mind for you....
Changing to get her back, is NOT changing...it's lying. And manipulative and YOU are NOT THAT TYPE OF MAN, correct? So you are becoming the man mentioned a few lines ago, and with help from THE MAN ABOVE, you'll become a man only a fool would leave. But you DO have to change yourself, and leave the results up to God. It is not complicated. I know it is not easy but it IS SIMPLE KEV....it really is simple.
Stay on track, you are getting on with your life!! "DISCOMFORT IS OKAY..." remember?
(( j ))
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
