Thank you for the kind words. What I do is very hard but M isn't always easy - heck life isn't always easy - we just have to do the best we can. I will never know what it is like for my H to do his part - he hurt a lot of people for a long time and let himself down - and let go of many good things in his life - all ugly memories he has to find a way to live with. My memories are shortterm compared to his. And then too, he has to face me and my kids and be reminded of what he was like. But we all need to move forward -or nothing changes.