I am not sure she wants nothing to do with the M... she would go ahead with the D. Seems like you are both at a standstill refusing to be the one who initiates either way. If you want it to work you have to act that way - if you don't want it then act that way.
I agree with SO2 about having an honest talk. You have a lot of choices and yet talk as though you don't. She is doing the same. How are doing on setting up goals? It will make things clearer.
