First, Do you love your wife? If the answer is yes, then set her free. Give her what she asks for. Do not try and control her. Focus very hard on UNDERSTANDING HER by listening to what she is asking, saying (in words and actions). Also, do not believe anything she says and only %50 of how she acts. Determining what is the truth can drive you crazy, so trust your feelings. Ya this is hard as hell, but very important right now. Love = patience and kindness. Be extremely kind to spouse. Be extremely patient with spouse. I enjoy my ex wife for WHO SHE IS, not who I wish she was.
With that said, this is a great opportunity for personal growth if you choose to take it. Do not focus on spouse, but focus ON YOU. Make changes to you for you. I have gotten to the point where I am happy no matter what else is going on with others. I can feel empathy for them, but I do not take on the role of FIXING them. That is their job. I can support others and give advice when asked.
A question I always ask my self, IS THAT WORKING FOR ME? If it is great, otherwise, time to try something new. I pass out what I want to receive. If I have a need for someone to listen, I start listening to others. If I need more smiles, I smile at others.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
