I am leaving huge footprints--when the Lord is carrying you, you cannot help but leave bigger prints.
On Weds, at dinner, the girls were practically begging DH to go to church with us. Normally they ask once and drop it, but not this time. I am certain this will continue until he decides to go. God is showing our babies how to bring Daddy home.
Isaiah 11:6"...and a little child shall leas them."
I love the Mat Kearney song and listen to it often when I am on the computer. Thank you for sharing it with me. I also listen to the two songs from Fireproof While I'm Waiting and Love is Not a Fight.
Thank you for your continued support and prayers. You are a wonderful mentor and I am grateful. BTW, I finished Captivating and it is wonderful! I am going to read it again and pick up Wild at Heart. I was thinking about giving Wild at Heart to DH for Father's Day. Input?
Living God's blessings with grace and dignity~ SMW
M40/H36 T16/M14 4K B2/08 S4/08 current
Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7
I promise quiet and peace. Oh, and adult beverages and fishing.
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Me 45, H 46, S 23, M 26, Together 30, Bomb 6-2-08, S 6-19-08; H left 12-29-08. H home 12-09, Still MLC in 2012! Me- I have my big girl panties on. Bring it.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
"Wild at Heart" is a fabulous book! Great insight into the male mind and essential for a man's walk. If your H is a reader, then my opinion is to have the kids give it to him for father's day. It can't be coming from you or he will, in most likelyhood, put it on a shelf and forget it.
You're going to go see Kelly Jo????? AWESOME!
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
SMW, It sounds like you handled the dialouge well. You let him know that this won't be a cake-walk (cake-eaters aren't welcome at this banquet.)
Thanks! I felt like I has handles it well. I was talking to my mom about it and mentioned that I was afraid of saying the wrong thing. She told me that I am following God's leading and he will ensure I say things that need to be said, when they need to be said, the way they need to be said.
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However, I ended up in a real funk on the way to church trying to figure out what was so awful that he needs to walk out on me, on the kids, on our life together.
This is a struggle isn't it? You recognised your shortcomings and are addressing your issues. You have made healthy positive growth for yourself. Don't fall into the if I do this then I will fix us trap. You can't change him. Here is when you have to self-validate because you are not being validated by DH. The funk - caused by doubts about yourself. How to de-funk: Pray Make a list - all the positive growth what you are grateful for all the people who love you stay busy do something nice for someone else. read "Oh the Places You Will Go" - Dr Suess, to your kids
You are handling it. It's OK to get in a funk, lose focus and feel bad. Self-awareness of it is good, then feel it and keep moving. Cheers Coach
I love that Dr. Seuss book! We also had the one for babies to be read before they are born, "Oh Baby, The Places You'll Go." DH read it to all of the littles.
I am starting a gratitude journal--I have a new journal to write it in. I know all of the other stuff and a strong hug from several good friends at church helped me, too.
Planning my vaca with KellyJo, as well as a trip to Disney in January for the kids and I for my graduation are all helping me to stay in the now and not wallow in the past.
Funk is gone.
Living God's blessings with grace an dignity~ SMW
M40/H36 T16/M14 4K B2/08 S4/08 current
Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7
you did wonderful SMW. and thank God for his perfect timing. Now I understand more your text.
Sorry, I did not get a chance to call and clarify! LOL
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and remember, it is not the present he is walking out on, it is the past and it is himself. You are showing him now that the marriage can change, and that HE can change too. He will see that this is not the old marriage, but a new marriage that God is building for you both.
As draining as it is, I do enjoy spending time with him. He and I put up the new gate on the fence yesterday. I think we are going to try to build the garden wall on Sunday--I need to ask him this evening. BIL was supposed to help me, but he never commits to working on it and I have a bunch of flowers I need to get planted soon.
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you ARE a marvelous woman.
Thank you, Crissy! I am just trying to live life the right way, bring Glory to God in what I do, and by His grace, hopefully God will restore my marriage in the process.
Living God's blessings with grace and dignity~ SMW
M40/H36 T16/M14 4K B2/08 S4/08 current
Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7
