why do you need HER for c and meds? Pay for them out of pocket if you think it looks so weak. But I think she'll know about the c MAYBE but you have something called medical privacy laws and I seriously doubt she's allowed to know you are on meds. Plus you don't drinnk anymore which she does so dont' think she can throw rocks when she lives in a glass house.
So get on her plan IF what you are saying you need to do b/c you don't want to pay for it out of pocket. well CHOOSE. Either you're on her plan and she'll know you are going to c and I think THAT SHE'LL SEE THAT AS A GOOD THING.... and you do not have to tell her ANYTHING BY LAW, AND SHE CANNOT FIND OUT ABOUT THE MEDS UNLESS SHE WANTS TO SAY YOU ARE DANGEROUS TO THE KIDS AND THEN DENY YOU CUSTODY SO THEN YOU CAN BRING UP ALL HER DRINKING BUT RECALL SHE WANTS YOU TO HAVE THE KIDS SOMETIMES SO SHE CAN BE FREE....RIGHT? SHE DRINKS A LOT AND PLUS, COURTS ARE USED TO LBS'ers going to c's and getting on meds. Happens IN MOST DIVORCES....and they don't lose the kids over it.
SO CHOOSE KEVIN...CHOOSE HOW YOU'LL GET THE HELP - BUT GET IT ANY WAY YOU CAN. And of course she can care about you and also NOT want to be M to you. She's not an evil monster. SHe cares about how the father of her kids is doing and she feels pity for you (whch is not love, it's close to contempt but pity is what she seems to feel or some basic human decent compassion....that does NOT confuse me at all...AT ALL....)
hope this helps you stay clear....
(( j ))
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
