Call that L now. Half of that money was yours and you need that half to hold up your end of the bargain as far your children are concerned.
OK. We all get it. She thinks she entitled, she's angry, she is going out swinging. She's following the WA script and it has VERY little to do with what you do or not, say or not.
Did you find those B*lls yet. I might be able to load you a brass set, with a serious down payment.
Cognitive Dissonance. Look it up. She has to be mean and nasty to avoid feeling any guilt. She has to militantly believe she is entitled.
While you are with that L, get yourself an injunction that she CAN NOT bring your children around the OM. It is in their best interests. You ARE NOT D yet, she is having an A, and it is detrimental for your children to be exposed to that.
She will be mad, you bet. But what is she going to do - leave you? Scream at you? (I'm sorry, I am willing to talk to you in a civil manner, but I am not willing to be screamed at. I will get off the phone if it continues. If it does say goodbye and get off the phone. Do not answer the phone if she calls right back.)
The first few months are hell, strap on those big boy briefs. Sorry you find yourself here, but you are in a place where everyone understand what you are going through.
I just got off the phone with my L and she said there's nothing I can do unless I have something on him i.e criminal record, drugs, drinking, etc..
I still have some background research to do but I think this is going to take some time and digging/snooping because I don't know anyone that knows him.
