Oldtimers: IS Mlcer good parent after crises?

[peacetoday]

BM

I am conflicted b/c

1. New friend is a nice person
I see red flags with this guy
and mainly I dont see us emotionally at the same place
he is somewhat spiritual..but he also comes from a similar history ( childhood) as my XH and he has done no recovery work on himself

so I guess I see it as an explosion waiting to happen Later
and I dont want to go thru this again

the conflict is: between 1 and 2

2; I am attracted to him and he easy to be with
he is a great dancer and teaches me many new moves which is exciting
and I feel great being with him/fun/exciting ect- like any new R

so there it is
I am not sure this R could really work and I dont want to get sucked into another bad R especially now
peace