Guys I would love to play video games or watch a movie with my son, but he has never been one to interact with me.
Don't take this the hard way. I chalk it up to age. My girls are 15 and 18 and used to do everything with me. Now it is not "cool" to be seen with your mom. They gave up on their dad too. When they go in a store with him, they make him walk around by himself the opposite way they are going.
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hoping he will want to go spend time with his dad.
Don't push him. He will do things with his dad when he is ready. Maybe he has tried and been turned down by his dad and he is dealing with that.
It is hard enough for your son to adjust to you and your xh being divorced but now there is girlfriend involved and it will take him time to accept that. You know how hard it is for you to accept it, he is probably going through the same thing. He had a lot thrown at him at once.
My stbxh started dating his girlfriend and moved in with her within 2 months. Even though we had been separated for almost 4 years it was still hard for the girls to adjust. They are still having problems. Every step takes time.
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I sometimes wish I could close that door forever with my xh. I wish I didnt still care.
There is a part of you that will always care. As much as I have been through with my stbxh, I still care. There will be a part of me that will always love him no matter what. What is that cheesy line they use...I love him but I'm not IN love with him. There are times I think I hate him but deep down I know I don't. I just don't agree with some of the things he does.
One of these days all of these men and women who walked away will realize the mistake they made. Some may find out in time to save marriages or to remarry but others will find out it is too late.
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if you have someone else, of course its easier.
It isn't easier in the beginning. When I first started dating again it was tough. After being with someone for so long you feel as if you are cheating on them. It is totally different than the "teenage" dating from long ago. You also have a wall built up because you are afraid of rejection. It takes time to have that wall knocked down.
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I dont want to be alone, but nothing has come my way. Plus everyone says I am NOT ready, and maybe I'm not.
No one wants to be alone but sometimes that alone time helps in the end. It makes you appreciate someone when you get them. I love my alone time. I never had "me" time before as my stbxh and I did everything together. If he wasn't around then I had the kids.
You will know when you are ready to date. You can't rush it. Everyone does things at different times. You have to finish grieving your marriage before you can even think of beginning another relationship.
