It's okay not to keep your posting up all of the time. You have to decide which forum is the right one for you.
As for your h coming to home and thinking it's still home to him...well....he's in crisis. People in mlc do this. The shoes by the door doesn't surprise me at all. Are most of his clothes still there? Tools, sports equipment, etc?
Some will claim that they've done things, but it's only been in their minds. Others will move out on what they say they will do. If he's seen a lawyer and begins proceedings, he could very well drag it out, costing a lot of money, and not doing the work. This is where it gets frustrating and expensive, i.e., them dragging their feet. Oh, if he does, he'll say that you are the one dragging your feet.
Until you know something for sure, go on w/your life. He's depressed and it sounds like he's not a very happy camper these days.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
