Keel-hauled, but, more time with my kids

[25yearsmlc]

PS in answer to a question you asked, YES there are folks who'd go to court and file a motion for injunctive relief which is to cause or prevent an action from happening, & that it cannot wait for a later court date, b/c to wait too long and not quicky deal with the matter, would do "irreparable harm" to someone if not acted upon immediately, and SO for that reason, they file to get something enforced or stopped. (As opposed to suing for money, ie damages, etc.)

DO I think this is worth it? ONLY IF you thought she'd learn something really valuable from it and NOT pull this stuff again and again and MAYBE that's the only way to deal with her knowing how she'll hate you ANYHOW...but for tonight/today...it is too late for that. I think.

What'd your L say or did you bother to call her? I WOULD HAVE CALLED HER ON THIS JUST TO CHECK AND IF NOTHING ELSE, DO NOT UNDERESTIMATE THE VALUE OF SCARING YOUR W INTO BEHAVING...Some time, if not for this then for the next stunt, I WOULD FILE FOR INJUNCTIVE RELIEF AND START PLAYING HARDBALL BIG TIME B/C YOU WON'T HAVE TO DO IT A LOT TO GET THRU TO HER....imo...even if it means bluffing her a bit with things you could legally do but probably would not do b/c of who YOU are....still, she does need to stop this and I doubt it'll be on her own. I mean she is acting like a child with tantrums at worst...and when our son then 2 1/2 laid on the floor of the grocery store b/c I would not buy candy I had a full cart and he did NOT believe I'd leave the cart and all that "work" and food there if he did not stop wailing...but I did. He could not believe it b/c it was a HUGE HASSLE for me and him and all of us...but you know, he never threw a tantrum like that again so my 2 hour one time hassle WAS WORTH IT...same goes for this poop...except your w is a bit more complicated....but only a bit. I just don't
"get her"...

Your hopes therefore rest on a vigorous legal defense AND OR yourself, AND OR someone in the family or close friend who gets thru to her, or GOD, or....nothing else likely b/c it won't be HER. Not anytime soon anyhow. You still have confidence in your L right? Hope so b/c if not, get a new one. But yeah, she sounded good and things have gone your way legally though it all seems like a nightmare it IS worse for your w...toooooo bbaaadddd....

So as gracefully/calmly but forcefully, and with witnesses, Do as others have suggested and tell her what this means to your SON and YOU and how it LOOKS....give her a chance to look heroic, (I know, cough cough but still....build a golden bridge for your enemy to retreat upon--Art of War---so that seeds are planted in HER mind and THEIRS, so they see that maybe her hands are not clean...(Do they know of OM at all, I mean her family? You never answered that except to say that when you told MIL SHE seemed bummed that you told her, or was it w who was bummed? Or both or what?

(I recall my first love in HS cheating on me and when I confronted him ALL he could focus on was "who told you?" and somehow I KNEW that he had cheated b/c it was such an odd focal point for an innocent person...) Her family has done a lot of transferring. I have 3 sisters and no way would NONE of them NOT Tell me if I was blowing somegthing out of proportion. They'd also check out my version of the truth if it started sounding too weird. Hasn't anyone in her family done that for you?

Were you seen as THE WINNER when you guys got married b/c you were a doctor and then what happened? She was miserable, so it must be YOUR fault? WTH??

Good luck in the morning, we'll all be rooting for you and please keep us posted.

((( j )))