I don't think it's so much a guy thing. I really struggle with talking to H. Most of me would just like to tell him to F off and never come around. We have D's though. <Sigh>. So much for the easy road for me.
If you still miss your H (and I know you do) you aren't ready to date. I was taught that I should always wait a month for every year I was with someone before dating again. I don't have any clue where the time frame came from, but it always worked for me with boyfriends. It gave me time to sort out my stuff before moving on. With this mess, I may need more than a month per.
