trying to be strong and patient 14

[karen43]

I'm fine, but worried about the kids. H has been gradually increasing his time with them. Last week I let him have them an extra day. Now he hasn't emailed or called about dropping them off today. Should I email him and if so, what do I say? I'm so tired of this.

[karen43]

OK, crisis solved. H just emailed me about picking up the kids in 2 hours....Whew!

[bluerain]

Oh Im sorry to hear about the kidney stone! I had gall stones and they were extremely painful, I know kidney stones are way worse. As far as your tea habit goes, Im a diet coke feind, so I wont get all preachy on you!

Are you happy that hes spending more time with them?

[bluerain]

Oh Im sorry to hear about the kidney stone! I had gall stones and they were extremely painful, I know kidney stones are way worse. As far as your tea habit goes, Im a diet coke feind, so I wont get all preachy on you!

Are you happy that hes spending more time with them?

[karen43]

I would be happy but it's his timing. When he first moved out he saw them about 10 hours a week no overnights, then after 6 or 7 months started one night a week, a couple months ago he went to 2 nights a week. Last week he wanted them 3 nights and our mediation is probably going to be this month or so. I'm thinking he's doing it more to lower his child support. He actually goes running with friends and works most of the time he has with them. So I guess I'm not as happy as I would be if I thought he was genuinely wanting to spend time with them. And I worry about after the D, he may want to back down his time with them and hurt them. But he is who he is. I try to accept that, pray for him, and stuff. Karen

[kat727]

Are you feeling any better? Back to work tomorrow or what? So will this have to pass out or what? Sorry don't know a lot about them.

I am worried that your H is doing that too. He may be clocking hours but is he really spending time with them. Neither my ex or your H are going to get the Father of the year award (sadly).

kat

[karen43]

Well, still feeling a bit rough, but was able to work today. Driving is when it's the most sore for some reason. Still hurting in the same area on the right side--hasn't moved or anything. I'm wondering if it could be a kidney or some kind of infection; but I didn't have a fever I don't think. It's been 3 days now, the same spot. One of the women I work with was thinking I might need antibiotics, I saw a nurse practitioner and am wondering if I should try to see my or any dr. tomorrow? Usually they are fine though I think.

H emailed me he filed for a continuance in the foreclosure. And asked me not to accept service for him again. I emailed back they didn't give me a choice, just gave it to me and told me to sign, and I didn't know I could refuse, but if it happens again, I will certainly tell them what he said.

I love my kids. They are so sweet. I don't know what I would do without them!!! They are just really great kids. I'm thinking today yeah even with a D and this kidney thing, I'm still happy most of the time!!! Crazy! Karen

[Yoyowife]

Karen,
Hope you get to feeling better soon. I think going to your dr. would be good idea if you're not better tomorrow.

[bluerain]

Hey Karen, whats the worst that would come from going to the doc? having them pat you on the head and tell you that you are fine? I say cranberry juice and heating pads!

You have the most incredible PMA of anyone I have seen on here, so congrats, you deserve to be happy, even if your kidneys are rebelling!

[Puppy Dog Tails]

Hi Karen,

Was just looking at radar right now, and it looks like your area might be getting slammed by some pretty powerful cells. Everyone okay??

Puppy