It will be OK in the a.m., and he will probably not even realize he upset you.
I completely understand how you feel. Reading Passionate Marriage did similar things to me. There were chapters in that book--you're right, not an easy read--that completely reduced me to tears and despair.
I thought the same thing you did: He will never read it. But that book changed me in that it made me more resolute to stand firm in myself and to see basic truths about our M that I'd never thought of before. I guess the shift in my attitude scared him a little...he picked up the book and began to read. I told him it was a hard read--a textbook for therapists (not really, but you know...) and he has been tackling it like it is a textbook, with sticky notes and yellow highlighter--(see me fainting)
But onward and upward for me. I have an appointment myself to check out a therapist for us tomorrow. The challenge in my town has been to find a MC that also has experience with sexual issues. Don't want to start with one who doesn't if you know what I mean. H doesn't really want to go, but he won't refuse as that would make him look like the "bad guy".
I agree with your H that he should find a male therapist. He needs to be comfortable in order to open up. Keep encouraging him. I will be doing the same soon I'm sure, as my H has yet to face his personal issues with intimacy which likely go back to FOO (family of origin).
