Oldtimers: IS Mlcer good parent after crises?

[peacetoday]

SH
I would love to hear your dream
if your ok with posting it I will reply
maybe we could emaillet me know when youll be back and we will work it out
wow what a coincidence about the bithdays

I called XH this am to clear the air about last night
it felt right..I left him a VM
basicaaly telling him that I do not wish to fight him
He has a right to say NO and I do not wany him to do things here unless he wants to
and I wany to reapect his boundries and be FRiends again

He called back twicw..mostly about BS
I am going to try to let XH go more
and not ask him for help or ask less and expect he will say NO and let him be by NOT reacting
this is my goal this month
let him go more

that is easy b/c my focus is now on fried anyway and how do I keep this attraction at a friendship level?
I am in trouble here
and Yes It does give me compassion for XH to know he stood absolutely no chance at fighting this off
I am not in crises,yet I am struggling
I have this illusion I can control this.. but this man is at the same place I dance, so I see him frequently: and well dancing is very sexual especially when this atraction is strong
this is going on 2 months now...and Ive been feeling I had to let him go from the start
I may have to stop going for a brief while
peace