Do you expect her to bring him on time for the 'Dad on the field thing'.
Will they do some kind of 'roll call' to get you and he on the field?
Are there other coaches, not family, who you could 'enlist' to help if she tries to prevent you from taking him on the field. Ask this in advance.
Is your son expecting you to do this and does she know that? If not, make sure he expects this. Make sure she is aware.
Maybe her 'entourage' just wants to be there for good reasons, like she has told them how SHE has supported you in all this and that you 'might try to block her from being a part of this. After all we know she is selfish and lies.
Whatever you do, get some third party witnesses. And if they call him out go to get him. If she stops you don't fight, just go out without him and go to the announcer and tell them that his mother is preventing you from doing this. That would be a hoot.
At this point, you aren't protecting him by rolling over. Instead he is being forced into more pain and confusion.
I may be off and I welcome other peoples ideas. I'm just saying this: What are you teaching him by letting her control both of you in such a critical situation?
I was thinking about how she did that 'thing' at the synagogue when they had the 'mixed marriages' thing. In hindsight, you probably should not have walked up with her to 'protect your kids emotions'. Instead, I think you actually hurt them when you 'play along' with her BULLSH*T
Kids are not stupid. I'll give you an example from MY childhood.
My Dad's second wife ran off with his cousin. Both had families. I was presented with a 'she is evil' front. My dad wasn't evil, and neither was she. She was honest with me, and he and my grandparents were not. I was 10 years old and I figured it out on my own. How?
Intuition. Kids have a deep intuition about things because they haven't learned how to doubt their intuition. That happens later when we are willing to look the other way to get what we perceive we 'want'.
My IC told me the other day that my kids would rather have me be strong and sober than have our marriage restored. Powerful stuff.
You're protecting your kids from something that HAS to happen. They HAVE to see the reality of their situation. Of their mother. Of their father.
What they ARE seeing is that mom makes bad decisions and dad allows it. Where is the Alpha Male in all this?
I think Ian or someone else may have better insights along this line. I'm just sayin' ...
Strength and Honor. I love you man and I know you understand where I'm coming from.
